Published on Oct 18, 2016
Iyanla Vanzant’s – The R Spot Mailroom – This is where Iyanla shares e-mail letters & videos sent from viewers. If you want to send Iyanla questions or share relationship issues; send correspondence to:
COMMENTS • 277
M Kay8 months ago
I learned the hard way with the gossip. Never again. Great points. Noted.
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Tomika Brunson1 month ago
I wish we had social media and you tube to seek help when I was married. Truly lesson learned.
Liz Albert2 weeks ago
me too… thanks
Victoria Jang7 months ago
1. Always ask for what you want!
2. Do not gossip about your partner!
3. Women fail to see their partner for who they are!
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Louise Ottley2 months ago
T D Thats y i leave they Ass nothing to offer keep walking
Pauline Mohd1 month ago
Paloma Linda8 months ago
if we ask for what we want and we consistently dont get it, then is that our clear clear sign that we’re with the wrong person??
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princess peso1 month ago
Shakrat Dosunmu1 month ago
Paloma Linda if they are dealbreakers and you need these traits in the relationship – YES
Katina Searcy8 months ago
Along w/my insecurities, these (3) three are exactly why I’ve had failed relationships. I’m 44 now. Got to fix me
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Conchetta Blessed2 months ago
Luki3 weeks ago
u can do it gurl!
Es Gee8 months ago
Also, I think we sometimes expect more then what they can give us and when they dont we get hurt. We expect more because that’s what we would do or give them.
Deanna Brownlee7 months ago
She has a very unique way of seeing through people’s walls and zeroing in on their deepest concerns. She is one special lady. I would love to sit down and have a conversation with her one day. Just as I expected, this is another one of her valuable gems,
Lisa Lisa2 months ago
Deanna Brownlee yes indeed I feel the same when I listen to her!
BC VC8 months ago
Tyra Peterson8 months ago
I have to do better with #1, not asking for what I need.
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Jameka Dunn7 months ago
yes I agree…
kay alex7 months ago
Tyra Peterson Me too
Lisa Osborne7 months ago
Wowww.. guilty of all 3. You gotta kno better to do better. Thanks sister Iyanla for blessing those who truly seek the truth..
Peter Cord8 months ago
thank you miss iyanla iam so grateful too god for you.
Evelyn Goldman8 months ago
you are 100% correct. I’m a living testimony to it all
lufuno mbedzi1 month ago
Evelyn Goldman o
ErikaBelote8 months ago
That was one thing my mother taught me was to never gossip…..how you feel yes that’s okay but about your partner no. Because of the people around you who know your business will talk and they can make the situation bad even when you and your partner have moved on from situation…….watching your videos iyanla vanzant are a blessing. You are truly amazing. Thank you.
S T2 months ago
ErikaBelote Yes. people don’t always get OK again when you do.
Zanele Mabaso1 month ago
Taylor, Faye7 months ago
Iyanla we appreciate and love you so much!
Sheri Townsend7 months ago
I went with a popular guy, my friends all knew. When it was known that I stayed over night at his place, my girlfriends, playfully demanded details. They were disappointed, but got over it. I NEVER discussed intimate details with others. If other women want to do that, that’s their business.
Gossip is a betrayal of trust on so many levels, and not just with men. Most of the arguments you see on these so-called reality shows stem from women who can’t keep their mouths shut. It’s entertaining, until it happens to you.
DD8 months ago
It always helps Iyanla, I feel spiritually connected to you
Khetiwe Ngubo7 months ago
guilty of gossiping about my partner, so true it messed my relationship, my sister and mom will take it personal
Sarah Houston8 months ago
Great video made me look a little deeper into myself ❤️
Traci thomas8 months ago
Thank you Iyanla….This information was SUPER valuable to me!!
Lakeshia Howze8 months ago
as always mama iya, I appreciate your wisdom.💜
Jennifer Joseph2 months ago
Not all women gossip men do it as well .
Robin Grift1 month ago (edited)
Jennifer Joseph I thought I was the only one who knew this. Not sure what kind of woman she referring to bt that’s not a good statistics…. not saying it’s not tru bt is it really one of the main ones?