Published on May 14, 2015
DEAR BLACK PEOPLE | How to Get Your Child Ahead
COMMENTS • 13
jeff2all2 years ago
So many black parents think that their child is their friend and buddy up to them……wrong!
Grapeseed2 years ago
I am that woman who listens to your show with my son. You are absolutely right about sending out a negative vibe when we tell our children about how hard we may have had it growing up or at any point in our lives. My son has witness some of my bad times. The divorce from his father. He spends mostly every weekend with his dad. I once said something negative about his dad a few years ago and he defended his father. I decided from that point on not to speak bad about his father in front of him. My relationship with his dad is very cordial. I also reward my son when he does something well. Ie.( Bringing home good grades). What I have noticed lately when I tell him to do something like take his shower before bed he always wants to negotiate with me. This has been going on for two weeks. He doesn’t do this with his father. He’s thirteen and I know he is testing the water with me. I may have gone wrong when I give in and let him wait and take his shower in the morning or take the garbage out later when he gets ready. Am I wrong for negotiating with him? It’s with everything I ask him to do lately. I pointed this out to him and he denied it. When I told him I am going to call his dad. He jumps up and does what I tell him. How can I get him to do something without threatening to call his dad?
YellowRoseOvTx2 years ago
Shaakama, I humbly tell you that Christianity does not teach that ppl can not be perfect. It instructs ppl to “Be Ye perfect even as your Father, which in heaven is perfect.” Mt. 5:48. “Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that Ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.” James 1:3.
We all error, but to error in such a arrogant fashion is another. I agree with much of what you say, but I will not thumbs up or share a video of you arrogantly taking jabs and dropping false information about my religion, nor will I subscribe to its video maker. It’s your voice and your channel, say what you will. Good luck.
YellowRoseOvTx2 years ago
From person experience, I have to agree with you that parents should not admit to their kids all the mistakes they’ve made. Children, even in their adulthood tend to recreate what they’ve known their parents reality to have been, even when the confession of their parents mistakes was just to warn them not to make the same mistake. It’s weird!!
Alex Carter2 years ago
I am a product of this truth, I didn’t really start learning my mothers blunders until my late teens, and it was not because she told me so much so as I was perceptive and empathetic enough to recognize her humanity. By that point her positivity
was a much stronger force in my life and my belief in that had carried me far into many success that I never thought of her mistakes as reason to doom myself to her life, but instead learn and appreciate the positivity that comes from such a realistic and varied life.
bruce nassar2 years ago
be born white
sweetjune2 years ago
I have bailed my son out, but I figure if I keep helping him he wont learn responsibility. that is important for all adults to learn. that’s not to say that I would not help him, because I always do…lol
lilrog09092 years ago
Awesome stuff I love your “for blacks” and “Dear black people” videos
olivionb2 years ago
Lynnelle2 years ago
My mom used to beat me while I clean my room and now I’m a big slob 😂.
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